If you’re planning a wedding, you’ve probably typed a question or two on Google on how to achieve your dream wedding. You’ve probably asked family and friends for tips and inspiration. And with the pandemic still on-going, you might be wondering how to safely go about one of the most important day of your life.
Well, do not fret. Today, My Pope Philippines will be answering five of the most asked questions that we gathered from the community! So, sit back, relax and let’s get to answering these wedding FAQs!
Wedding FAQs: Who pays for the wedding?
This will sorely depend on you, your partner, and your families. Today, it is quite common for both the bride and groom to split the bill for the wedding. And if your families want to gift the wedding to you, then who would say no to that, right?
The most important thing is to not assume anything and make sure you are on top of your budget if you’re spending it all on your own. (Read: 5 Ways to Achieve Zero Waste in Your Wedding)
Wedding FAQs: How do you get a marriage license?
A marriage license is a government document that allows you and your partner to get married anywhere in the Philippines. In context, you are allowed to marry whoever you want, but there are a few people you are legally not allowed to marry such as someone younger than 18, or a close blood relative, or someone who is already married.
You will have to show up at the local civil registrar in the town or city where either or both of you live. You will need to submit your marriage license application form, Valid IDs, CEDULA, PSA Birth Certificate, and Certificate of No Marriage. (Read: 3 Prayers to Save a Failing Relationship)
Couples under the age of 24 are required to attend a family planning seminar. The license is valid for 120 days and is a requirement for churches. But if you or your partner is 18 to 21 years old, you will either need a notarized affidavit of parental consent and a copy of their valid ID. You can also have your parents personally appear in front of the registrar.
Meanwhile, if you are 22 to 25 years old, you need a notarized affidavit of advice from a parent.
Wedding FAQs: What changes should we expect due to COVID-19?
Weddings are a celebration of love between two couples and a union of families. And Filipinos love a good party! So while the gatherings are somewhat small for now, wedding events are still very much ongoing.
Joan Auyang of White Bridal Salon says 2021 will see a trend of micro weddings. In her interview with Philippine Tatler, Joan says that while “government regulations on guest size have changed a few times… couples have at least been allowed to hold ceremonies.”
This will lead to more intimate and smaller-scale weddings with just select family and friends joining the couple. The upside of this is you get to be surrounded by the people you really love and cherish during your special day.
Wedding FAQs: Are personal vows allowed in a Catholic wedding?
While you wish to profess your love to your partner through a personal wedding vow, it is now allowed by the Catholic Church. (Read: LOOK: Bride-to-be marries fiancé in ‘Animal Crossing’ wedding)
Lingayen-Dagupan Archbishop Socrates Villegas said that the Rite of Marriage does not provide an option for them to publicly express their love in their own words. He added that personal spiritual expressions “should not be mixed with the liturgies of the Church.”
Wedding FAQs: My partner is non-Catholic, can we still get married in a church?
These days, the rate of ecumenical marriages (a Catholic marrying a baptized non-Catholic) and interfaith marriages (a Catholic marrying a non-baptized non-Christian) are getting higher. Moreover, though challenges arise when a Catholic marries someone of a different religion, the Catholic church believes that all marriage is sacred.
If your partner is a non-Catholic Christian, the CBCP says you need to get permission for a mixed marriage from the Local Ordinary or the Archbishop. However, for permission to be granted, the couple must fulfill the following conditions:
- The Catholic party declares that he or she is prepared to remove dangers of falling away from the faith and makes a sincere promise to do all in his or her power to have all the children baptized and brought up in the Catholic Church;
- the other party is to be informed at an appropriate time of these promises which the Catholic party has to make so that it is clear that the other party is truly aware of the promise and obligations of the Catholic party; and
- both parties are to be instructed on the essential ends and properties of marriage, which are not to be excluded by either party.