On Valentine’s Day this year, singer-songwriter Moira Dela Torre went viral online after she released the music video for her song, “Paubaya.” The video, starring ex-real life lovers Julia Barretto and Joshua Garcia, has left everyone in tears with its tagos-sa-puso lines and scenes.
In the past year, Moira delighted her fans with song collaborations and music videos for her 2020 album. A series of songs featuring I Belong to the Zoo in “Patawad, Paalam,” Ben&Ben in “Paalam,” and Moira herself in “Patawad” immediately became a hit to music lovers. And now, the final chapter to this song-series, “Paubaya,” has finally gotten its own music video!
“At dito nagtatapos ang kabanata ng Patawad. Sana naramdaman mo yung “kalma. Yung lubag ng loob,” Moira said in a post, “Sana lahat tayo ay lumabas na handang sumugal at magmahal muli.” (WATCH: Richard Poon, Maricar Reyes Talk Love, Money, Jealousy)
Just a day after its release, the Paubaya music video has already garnered 7.1 million views— and we are not surprised at all! The video sends a message of love, forgiveness, and moving forward that we can all relate to— so much so that we can’t help but replay its scenes over and over!
Lesson #: Acknowledge Your Short Comings
In the video, it can be seen that Julia and Joshua are saying sorry to each other for their shortcomings and the mistakes they’ve made in the relationship. “Sorry kung wala ako nung kailangan mo ng makakapitan,” Joshua says, “Hindi man lang kita naprotektahan.” Julia remains silent while Joshua apologizes for what he did and didn’t do during their time together as a couple. (Read: 4 Healing Prayers for a Broken Heart)
That’s one thing we should all remember when it comes to relationships. Everyone makes mistakes, no one is perfect, and admitting you were wrong just shows that you are willing to learn from it and become a better person. Acknowledging your faults also shows that you want to grow from your mistakes and try to avoid them in the future.
Lesson #2: Always Leave Some for Yourself
In response to Joshua’s apology, Julia then says sorry for getting tired and feeling exhausted in the relationship. “I’m sorry napagod ako, I’m sorry nawala ako. Natakot ako kasi hindi kita mahanap noon. Binigay ko lahat— binigay ko sa’yo lahat, naubos lang ako,” she says.
In every relationship, it’s okay to give a part of you to someone else, but remember to leave some for yourself. This goes for both tangible and intangible things— money, time, effort, gifts, and most especially, love. (Read: We Challenge You to Date ‘Anyone’ More Often – Here’s Why!)
While it can feel like you’re on cloud nine when you’re in love, and you’re willing to give everything you have to that one person, you should always, ALWAYS keep some for you. You cannot fully give love to someone else if you can’t love yourself in the process, right?
Lesson #3: A Happy Ending Doesn’t Always Mean Being Together
The most heartbreaking part of the video would have to be when both Joshua and Julia tell each other that they tried. The tearful pair were standing face to face when Julia said, “Sinubukan naman natin ‘di ba? Nilaban naman natin ‘di ba?” To which Joshua replied, “Yeah, we tried.”
It got even heavier when he started thanking her for all the memories and telling her that all he wants for her is to be happy, and she replies the same— signifying proper closure. (Read: 4 Relationship Lessons We Can Learn From ‘Kung Paano Siya Nawala’)
We were raised to believe that a happy ending would mean that the couple will end up together and live happily ever after. However, in reality, that’s not always the case. Just because a relationship didn’t work doesn’t mean you failed— it might just mean that there is something else planned for you. Just have faith in Him and believe that anyone can have their own happiness, in whatever form it may be!