Most young people think that Valentine’s day is a special day only for those who have a special someone with them. Some single adults for sure think this way too. We often imagine that Valentine’s day is about a warm kiss or a candle on the table, sparkling champagne, and someone’s stunning eyes smiling at you. But in reality, this day is way more than that.
Valentine’s day is first understood as a commemoration of a martyred saint, St. Valentine. However, his name and works are not that popular to many, hence people tend to recall instead the early pagan tradition called “Lupercalia,” a celebration that may include a ritual in which men and women were paired off by choosing names from a jar. (WATCH: DIY Amazing Valentine’s Day Cards)
Ancient Greece observed this day differently. This season was a mid-winter celebration for the marriage of the god Zeus and the goddess Hera. This is what some historians believe to be the foundation of our knowledge which we now celebrate as Valentine’s day or a day for romantic expression of love.
How Do We Understand Love?
Eros is one of the types of love according to ancient Greece. This is named after the Greek god of love and fertility. This is what people usually associate with romantic, passionate, and physical love on Valentine’s day. (Read: 5 Books That Teach Kids the Complexities of Love)
If eros or romantic love is what we commonly express to emphasize love on the 14th of February, how about the other types of love? Imagine what a priest said in a homily that we kiss and hug more our significant other than our mother. We say beautiful words to a woman yet can’t even spend quality time talking with our parents. (Read: 3 Cute Ways to Celebrate Valentine’s Day With Your Parents)
Absolute love is to be shared not only with someone whom you feel special— your significant other got only special time, attention, and priorities. It doesn’t mean all love must only for him/her.
Share Love, Share God
The Catechism of the Catholic Church reminds us. “God is love and love is his first gift, containing all others. God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.”
The fulfillment of this love, above all else, is found with God in the face of our neighbors, our parents, brother, sisters, or even the people we don’t like. You’ve got to share the love for others— and more importantly, you got to learn to love yourself and take care of your own growth and happiness. (Read: 5 Ways to Break Up With Your Past Self)
Without that self-love, your way of expression might fall heavily into an erotic love or manipulative kind of love. People who do not appreciate themselves enough tend to underestimate the love they deserve— hence seeing their partners as a “mighty” person whose love and affection they do not deserve.
Treat Others as You Like to Treat Yourself
It’s not wrong to put your whole world to someone you love— especially if it’s your choice of expressing your love. Just don’t forget that you also have a relationship with friends, family and most especially with yourself.
As St. Augustine would say, “Love that you may understand.” Love that you may comprehend more the essence of being with others in this world. (Read: 6 Design Tips to Improve Wellbeing at Home)
Date your family as if you’re dating with the whole world. Date yourself as if you are dating your neighbors. Just date anyone around for love’s sake. Do good to others, that is the challenge.